Will Your Hardened Heart Destroy Your Marriage?

Many people come up with a great number of grounds for divorce. And when it comes to the concept of marital restoration, they can easily find all sorts of justifications and excuses as to why it would be impossible. They overlook that the heart of God, the creator of marriage, is desiring of reconciliation and restoration. They quickly forget that nothing is impossible for God. They overlook the truth that it is the devil who delights in the hardening of your heart and who loves when you only focus on the reasons why you want to kill your marriage.

Ultimately, the thing which will destroy your marriage is your own heart.

The bible warns us extensively about being watchful of our heart. We are told to not trust our heart as it is deceitful. We are advised to guard our heart and to be wary lest it turn to stone. God teaches us that the things which flow from our heart will either bring life to our marriage or will kill it.  

Jesus shared many lessons through a variety of parables. He told us deep truths about the heart in the parable of the Sower. Jesus offers us both warnings and promises. He guides us to be watchful over the soil of our heart. It is our own hearts which will determine whether or not a marriage will grow abundantly, wither away, or die. It is the condition of your heart which is the root of each conflict, each breakthrough, and each restoration. If you allow your heart to harden, there will not be a seed which will bear fruit that is pleasing to God.

Be mindful that God will not prosper fruit in soil that is hardened. He won’t seek to multiply if there is no root. He will not send rain to a place where the thorns are crushing out His word and truth. The biggest question to consider then is not whether God will move in your life but is the condition of your own heart actually allowing Him to.

So, ask yourself – what ground are you cultivating in your heart?

For a growing number of people, they have heard the word of God. But they sadly have no roots. They read and they listen. Yet, they are essentially ‘playing church.’ In life, testing inevitably comes. This is particularly true in marriage. Satan despises marriage as it is dear to the heart of God. Satan wants to do all he can to destroy this precious covenant. And so, if you lack solid roots, if you know the word but fail to fully live it and obey it, you will be washed away. When the testing comes, be it an argument with your spouse, or perhaps they disappoint you, then you will certainly fall prey to the plans of Satan and eventually you will surely fall away. Your roots were shallow. Be wary of allowing bitterness, pride, and offense to harden your heart. Be mindful of not allowing worry, fear, the desire for comfort, and the seeking of your own personal happiness to overcome your heart as it will eventually murder your marriage.

Forgiveness and reconciliation in marriage pleases God. It is His desire. It is our perseverance through the testing which produces a double portion and blessings. Following His word begets growth. Ignoring his word leads to destruction and death of the spirit.

Marriage reflects the relationship between Jesus and the church. Will you follow the model of Jesus? If you choose not to, be aware that you are then following the plan of Satan.

Marriage is a precious blessing which should not be taken for granted or cast aside casually. Will you allow your heart to remain hard as stone, or will you choose to become more Christ-like?